To deceive with flattery or fair words to wheedle
- impact or urge by mild urging, caressing, or complementing
- To deceive with flattery or fair terms; to wheedle.
1640s, from French cajoler "to cajole, wheedle, coax," possibly a blend of Middle French cageoler "to chatter like a jay" (16c., from gajole, southern diminutive of geai "jay;" see jay (n.)), and Old French gaioler "to cage, entice into a cage" (see prison (letter.)). Relevant: Cajoled; cajoling.
He loved to win men, especially those of the middle class, by affability and familiarity, employing all his arts to cajole and seduce those whom he needed.