If all else fails, the abuser recruits pals, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, organizations, neighbours, the media, teachers – simply speaking, 3rd events – to accomplish their putting in a bid. He makes use of them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, provide, escape, tempt, convince, harass, communicate and usually manipulate their target. He controls these not aware instruments just as he plans to get a grip on his ultimate victim. He uses exactly the same mechanisms and devices. In which he dumps their props unceremoniously if the job is performed.One form of control by proxy would be to engineer situations where abuse is inflicted upon another person. Such very carefully crafted scenarios of embarrassment and humiliation provoke social sanctions (condemnation, opprobrium, or physical punishment) contrary to the target. Community, or a social group become the devices regarding the abuser.